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[Jun. 11th, 2004|08:57 pm]
Nchanter
i cleaned out my friends list again. this isn't a comment on you as a person, but rather, i really don't read you entries much. and there is just so much there. feel free to continue reading my journal, and if you decided to take it as a personal affront anyways, so be it.

-k
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From: dalious
2004-06-12 12:12 am (UTC)
:( *pout*
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[User Picture]From: nchanter
2004-06-12 07:02 am (UTC)

Re: No.

ok, i need no one's BS right now, and that includes you darling. so cut it out. it's not cute. fuck, i'm not pouting right now, so you can't either. secondly, you fucking behave yourself around my woman. hell, either of them, but mostly the one you weren't behaveing yourself around. i don't need to hear that from other people, that's just not cool. so back the fuck off, and grow up.
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From: dalious
2004-06-12 07:36 am (UTC)

Re: No.

behave yourself around my woman. hell, either of them, but mostly the one you weren't behaveing yourself around. i don't need to hear that from other people, that's just not cool. so back the fuck off, and grow up.

umm, what are you talking about
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[User Picture]From: nchanter
2004-06-12 07:47 am (UTC)

Re: No.

i have been informed, not by her, that you were being all touchy with one of my girlfriends at the diesel and she kept on trying to get you to back off and you totally weren't takeing a hint. i'd like to say in the same situation, i would have said "don't fucking touch me" but she didn't, but from what i have been told, she was pritty fucking clear. so i'm telling you not to. i'm telling you to grow up, and if you're going to be poly and play with big kids learn how to play.

no, you really don't want to piss me off right now. i'm so mad at the world, between my father, my uncle, my brother, my former boss, what's been going on with my other girlfriend, i'm waiting for a fight. so stay out of my way right now little boy. and learn how to act like an adult.
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From: dalious
2004-06-12 08:01 am (UTC)

Re: No.

i think you have been misinformed, this week at diesel i wa recoverign from heat exaustion and wasn't like that with anybody. corection make that it was only alisia when she was in front of me with her arms draped around my neck shen i was saying bye to her. at one point i fell asleep on the couch
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[User Picture]From: nchanter
2004-06-12 08:26 am (UTC)

Re: No.

yea, well these people have no reason to lie, esp in a public forum. still, don't fuck with me. and still, the pouting was uncalled for. regardless, i'm not going to argue with you any more, just be careful. rember, she didn't tell it to me, but i saw her back up the story still the same.
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From: dalious
2004-06-12 08:32 am (UTC)

Re: No.

i dont' want to fight with you but i stand by thati i did nothing wrong
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[User Picture]From: darxus
2004-06-12 04:12 pm (UTC)

Re: No.

It is painfully obvious that you don't know when to stop.
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[User Picture]From: buxom_bey
2004-06-21 12:05 pm (UTC)

Apology

I so did not mean to set off this bot o drama. Dalious this is my fault. The night we were both at Manray (yeah, way back then) you were very touchy. Not in a bad way, I know you were only trying to be supportive, but it was too much for me. When I saw you again at nchanter's party I felt uncomfortable being too physically close to you, it was like I'd OD'd on you. I felt bad and didn't know what to say or how to say it. I talked about it with tisana and she told me I should just be blunt. If I thought of you as an asshole I could've just said 'back off'. But I don't think that. I do think you're a good person, a nice person. I don't like being mean to nice people and saying 'don't touch me' seems mean to me. So I diddn't say anything.
Then last week at Deisel you cam e over to say hi. You gave my hand a hello squeeze and I backed away. You reached out to lightly touch me arm, and I backed away again. This is what tisana saw and commented on, that you weren't picking up on my body language, on the fact that everytime you tried to touch me, I tired to move out of range. I'm really sorry I didn't just say something. In trying not to be mean, I've ended up being cruel. So while it gives my heart little sparkles of glee to see the people I care about trying to protect me, you can all stop now. Not being able to read body language isn't a fault, Dalious didn't do anything wrong.
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[User Picture]From: gingerkat
2004-06-12 09:43 am (UTC)

Re: Peace

I'll just momentarily interject my unwanted perception of the issue.

Shane, you owe her friend an apology. Regardless of whether or not you were completely aware of what you did wrong, she perceived your behavior as offensive and someone else also viewed it as such. You need to give them both plenty of space in the future. Kris has also been through total hell lately, and doesn't need to deal with any petty grievances.

In Shanes defense, I really don't think he was aware of how he made you or your friend feel. I've never seen him continue to do things that he knows is upsetting someone. I think his "pouting" was also an indirect way to let you know that his feelings were very hurt. He is very sensitive when he feels rebuffed by someone he admires and respects. What he sees as rejection is crushing to him. And he was out of it that date from working in the heat, so it is most likely that he missed something. Men can be incredibly dense. Sometimes it has to be as blunt as Kris's "Don't fucking touch me", or they don't get it.

I will go away and keep my mouth shut from here on. I just hate to see my friends upset. Hugs to all.
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[User Picture]From: nchanter
2004-06-12 07:31 pm (UTC)

Re: Peace

I appologize for airing this on LJ. I have just been dealing with a lot of people who have been pissing the hell out of me since i got back online yesterday, and i specifically made sure that i said in this post that it's not an affront on the person, but rather me feeling like i need to weed out my friends list. i'm not going to stop hugging shane or anything, i'm not going to start ignoring him, i jsut don't feel the need to keep him on my friends list. the other part, i really shouldn't have aired on LJ, i was just hearing some clarifications about the incident from someone when i read shane's comment, and it just pissed me off. now granted, she should have actually said something, but, well, i'm protective of the people i date. hell, i'm protective of all my friends, but esp the people i date (when i tell off Darxus's oldest friend on IRC because i think he's being pushy, yea, that's me being protective.) so while i still stand by what i said, i appologize for haveing said it.

oh, and adria, your perception is actually greatly appreciated, atleast from me, and well, as this IS my journal, that's all that counts :-)
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[User Picture]From: gingerkat
2004-06-13 04:53 am (UTC)

Re: Peace

I understand about the being protective of lovers :) I think that you have every right to have whomever you want on your friends list without explanation. It is your journal. I hope things get better for you soon.
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[User Picture]From: gingerkat
2004-06-13 05:07 am (UTC)

Re: Peace

BTW, I also appreciate the direct manner in which you make your posts. It is what you are feeling at the time, and feelings aren't wrong. Speaking of directness, I just want you to know that my recent posts aren't just about you. Yeah, I felt protective of him when he was upset about this. I've also been seeing all sorts of horrible bickering between friends lately which include LJ drama. The way people treat Shane has been an ongoing issue which really upsets me. I don't want you to think that all my negativity was just directed towards you. *Hugs*
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[User Picture]From: nchanter
2004-06-13 07:20 am (UTC)

Re: Peace

Totally understand the pretectiveness, and i totally understand why you made those posts. i do that too some times, more in the past, because i've found myself weeding out the people that made me feel like i needed to do that all the time. But there was a while where i made "pet peeve #xxx" posts, alot, probably something a bit over a year ago, when lots of my friends were pissing me off and acting stupid. and when people complained, i was like "it's my fucking livejournal, if you don't like it don't read it" (it's amazing how many people really just don't get that, that they really don't have to read anyone's journal)

In all honesty, i didn't think it was all directed at me. I just assumed that i was the catalyst for bringing something up that had been bothering you for a while. I am sorry if i hurt Shane, and i am sorry if I pissed you off.

*hugs*

-k
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