Happy Post

This is a happy post. (I know, right? How often does that happen?) It's not going to be very long, but I wanted to make sure people knew that I am pretty happy right now.

Knock on wood *knock knock* I'm still very much enjoying being Conchair of arisia, and so far have hosted some pretty great meetings, the last 3 of which ended early or on time! (I mean, they are still MEETINGS, but they have NOT SUCKED and I take that as a win).

Work is going reasonably well.

A new telling of ATITD has started back up and some of our friends who had quit when I started playing are back and playing again. I'm not really playing league of legends much anymore because I just can't deal with the toxic community, but that's OK with ATITD to fill that void. (Yes, very different sorts of games.) I'm in a semi-monthly online Mage: The Ascension game with some people I know from Worldcon fandom. It had been over a decade since I last played Mage. Wheeee

My mother-in-law is coming to visit this weekend, and we're gonna do some New England Fall touristy stuff. She wants to see all the pretty leaves, and I'd like to go apple picking :) While I'm a bit sad it's going to be so cool out (High of 50F wtf?) at least its supposed to be Sunny.

The house continues to be great for us. Kitties are doing well, and Brandon is amazing and supportive and fun :)

Yep, that's my happy post! Here for posterity when I want to rip my hair out in another 6 weeks!


(Man, I need some new Icons. A lot of these pictures are over a decade old. Argh.)

Where I slept in 2014

Littleton, MA
Boston, MA
Negril, Jamaica
Montego Bay, Jamaica
Hunt Valley, MD
Dennis, MA
Enfield, CT
Salt Lake City, UT
Lower Burrel, PA
Hudson, NH
Washington, DC
Gaithersburgh, MD
Manhattan Beach, CA

I *think* I got them all, and I think they are in order.

Arisia 2016 Guest of Honor Announcement

While we’re hard at work putting together an amazing Arisia for 2015 (Just 65 more days to go!), when one works on a convention as large as Arisia, with our broad range of offerings, thinking about what to do “next year” starts more than 12 months ahead. To that end, we’re happy to announce the Arisia 2016 Guests of Honor!

Writer Guest of Honor: John Scalzi
Artist Guest of Honor: Johnna Y. Klukas
Fan Guest of Honor: Pablo Miguel Alberto Vazquez III

Just a taste of things to come!

-Kris "nchanter" Snyder
Arisia 2016 Convention Chair


So for those that don't follow me over on Facebook, or those that missed it over there, Brandon and I are buying a house in Southern New Hampshire, just off of Rt 3 (so I'm still only 45 minutes to Camberville and Boston)! We close at the end of July, and move in early August. It's new construction, which wasn't what we were specifically looking for, but this property ended up being something we really liked. This is really exciting, but also anxiety producing with sorting through everything we own and packing and stuff. I might end up writing about that (since writing my last post ended up being very useful for me sorting out my own thoughts) but I figured I'd give people some of the pictures we have to ooh and ahh over before I delve into angsty first-world-problem rants.

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So here is my problem with the conversation going on in our community (and if you have no idea what I'm talking about, Goddess bless you and move along) -- there are a lot of people that are trying to get around talking about specifics and nuances. These things aren't black and white. You can't have black and white rules (well, you can, but they tend to backfire). Additionally, there is some demonizing going on of people who aren't holding specific black and white lines. That's so not OK.

Judah isn't welcome in my home. Someone I care about *vastly* more than him has said she doesn't want him around. That's the end of it for me. I don't think that people who still are friends with him are bad people. I don't think that Rachel and Scott are bad people for allowing him to be at the BoS party. I think that anyone demonizing them for it is wrong. People make decisions and choices given the information they have at the time. Sometimes it is flawed. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes they have information that you don't have.

There are a lot of well meaning people who are saying things that boil down to "abusers aren't tolerated at my parties" and while I understand and agree with the sentiment, I call bullshit. You know why I call bullshit? Because my abusive ex-boyfriend (Darxus) is still invited to their parties, and allowed in their houses. I've had someone, as recently as a year ago, try and tell me that I should give him the benefit of the doubt, that he's a good guy, etc. Some of these same people are saying that Judah isn't welcome in their homes.

I'll admit I'm a bit bitter. Is Darxus accepted in the community still because I wasn't as public about it as Song is? Maybe. I won't drumbeat that much out in public. However, in the 8+ years since my ex and I broke up I have not been exactly quiet about the fact that our relationship was abusive. Was there as clear a case of rape as there was with Judah and Song? I would not say that my ex ever raped me. Was I in a relationship where I didn't feel like I could say no to sex without repercussions? Yes.

Let me state that again with less negatives: I was in a relationship where I felt like if I said no to sex, there would be negative repercussions.

Many people in the community are still friends with him, still invite him to their parties, welcome him into their homes, and that was a large reason why I stopped showing up to things, and distanced myself from the community. I stopped going to Scott and Rachel's parties for half-a-decade because of that, and once I started showing up I *always* made sure there was someone on my "safe" list there that I could flee to if I started having a panic attack (which I have).

Am I angry? Mostly not any more. I'm not saying all of this because I want people to dis-invite Darxus, ostracize him, etc. I'm saying this because I can't stand the hypocrisy. Because this shit is rarely as black-and-white as some people are portraying it to be. Because I am still friendly acquaintances or casual friends with people that still speak to him. They are not bad people. Neither are those who chose to maintain a friendship with Judah. Rachel and Scott are not bad people for not previously banning Judah from their parties.

People, relationships, narratives and life all have nuances. Please remember to acknowledge that.

Kris "Nchanter" Snyder

New Computer... New Mouse

So. I've been gaming, including playing league of legends (online MOBA, where mouse reaction time is important) on a touchpad. Except I got a new computer last week. I bought a Toshiba Qosmio where I had been on a Dell XPS. I seriously thought about spending the extra $1000 to get a comparable Alienware, partially because it would have a probably superior touchpad.

This touchpad isn't bad. It's pretty good. It's not the sexyness that was the touchpad on my XPS (which I had for 5 years. And I game. At all), and I haven't even tried to play LoL yet, and I'm pretty sure that no, I just cannot game like that on it. I can play Civ V just fine, it's reasonable for, you know, not gaming, but I'm gonna need something else to play LoL.

Oh, and did I mention that I typically don't sit at a desk or table? Yes yes, this is probably bad for me. Getting a sit-stand desk would be ideal. Any comments or suggestions that rely on that solution will get ignored. Especially as I cannot use a real mouse due to weird shoulder RSI issues. Just trust me on this.

So what I use when I'm at a PC (so the last two major office jobs I've had) have been some version of the Logitech Trackball Like the Wireless M (which I do own right now...) and I like it, but I know it's not the most ergonomic option out there. It also is a completely different set of muscle memory movements than using a track pad. Completely. So if I'm going to switch to it for playing LoL (and other possible future gaming that requires quick precise mouse movements) I wonder if it's the best option, and if I should be looking at something different, like one of the Kensington options. The Kensington Expert (Link) is the gold standard, but it's rather BIG and, because I don't sit at a table/desk much of the time (yes, even when gaming) I want something that sits to the side of my track pad on my laptop surface. So maybe I want something like the Kensington Orbit Mobile(Link)

Yes, I'm special and picky. And completely indecisive. And need to start re-training muscle memory. And don't want to have to do it multiple times. (which almost has me wishing I'd bought the Alienware... but otherwise I'm very happy with this computer. And I really should not have been playing LoL on a track pad for a year and a half anyways...)

Anyone have useful input or thoughts?

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I am a woman of the desert, forged in fire and made of rage.
I am a goddess of the sun, I can give the light of life or scorching heat that takes it away.

Places Slept in 2012

In order of first night in the year slept there...

Littleton, MA
Boston, MA
Queensbury, NY
Lower Burrell, PA
New Kensington, PA
Fairfax, VA
Cambridge, MD (not a typo)
Enfield, CT
Bethesda, MD
Edison, NJ
Philadelphia, PA


So we've ended up with a second cat, acquired from paradoox and L. They had gotten Kimi (the cat) from the shelter a number of weeks ago (maybe 6 now?) because they wanted a friend for their existing cat, Arthur. That did not work out well. The shelter had said that she'd lived with cats before, so we thought maybe the problem was Arthur, a big, young, excited, Tom. So maybe this would work better with our big, old, super-chill Tom. Day 1 of Kimi and Monster was better than Kimi and Arthur ever was. After a week there is a lot more progress, but there is still growlilng going on (all on Kimi's side... I am *so* proud of Monster, I can't even tell you. My kitty is awesome. He's done everything right, which is amazing 'cause she's sending some real mixed signals here about wanting to play or not).

Kimi has started warming up to Gumby and I, and when she's not freaked out, or being a crazy bitch in Monster's general direction, she's very sweet. So we're keeping her and crossing out finger that in 3 months her and Monster can both be up on the bed at the same time (it's only been a week). Even if that doesn't happen, if she stops growling and freaking out, and they just tolerate each other, I'd be pretty happy. Plus she actually fits inside the tunnel on the kitty furniture, and after we put some katnip in there she decided it was her spot. It's so cute having a normal cat-sized cat around :)