||[Jun. 18th, 2002|01:47 pm]
should dye hair puple today. might. was going to yesterday. got distracted by the elvin boy. went to providence last night. again. we had fun. though now something is bothering me, and i'm debating weather to put it on my lj or not. if i do it'll be after a lj cut. i'm usually not THAT public about this stuff.... but it's bothering me. alot. ok... here is goes
so someone i'm dateing has never had a blowjob. he kinda wants one... we had a discussion about it. i said... "eh... i dont' think so... not from me... but your allowed to go elsewhere to get one." so i also told fang about this. so when in providence last night it came up, somehow, probably 'cause i started a discussion on masterbation. and statik and dan were egging me on to do it. and last night he asked again. and i don't know... part of me is like "i'm his girlfriend, i should" and part of me is like "ummmm... no....." and it's not like i haven't done it before, i just haven't done it in a while. it's a little bit degrading, not nearly as intimite as sex, and it's not like i ever asked him to eat me out. actually, i usually asked him NOT to. and i don't know. i need to vent, and advice, and whatever thoughts are floating through anyone's head about this. and i hope he doens't get upset that i posted this. but hey, i just needed to get this out, and if he can't deal, well, tough. though i do love him.
oh... and Mage.... 4pm at alan's. yea for central square.
ok.. i'm done now.
pffff. sounds like a schmuck. defenestrate him.
blowjobs are overrated, anyway.
I erased my previous comment because it was too short...
Firstly, don't ask boys for advice on it! Especially Dan and Statik...they're silly!
basically here's my take on oral. I'm not a big fan of it. It's very hard for me to get into, mainly because, most of the time I get no enjoyment from it. Once in a while, I'll find someone who responds to it in a way that turns me on (so far there's only been 2) otherwise, it bores the ever-living crap out of me.
If you tried it and found you don't like it, then don't feel you have to do it. Because if you're not into it, then what's the point?
that was my two cents.
If it makes you feel really uncomfortable, than don't do it. But if you're just don't feel like it, I'd give the poor inexperienced boy a blow job. I mean, it's not like he wants one every day--he just wants to see what it's like, which is reasonable.
Out of curiousity, and you don't have to answer this, why did you ask him NOT to eat you out? It's so fun :)
i have a very screwed up history including one JS eating me out when i told him to GET THE FUCK OFF OF ME.
i need to hold/be held when fooling around. it keeps me from breaking down. i'm actually potentially a very scary person to fool around with.
so i do enjoy it, it just scares me, and i'm all about the cuddling.
I assumed it had something to do with previous negative experiences. J.S. is a fuck head.
Although fooling around is always better when you and your honey are close and cuddly, sometimes I find that it's nice to do something just for him/her. So if a blow job will make him happy--provided it doesn't make you uncomfortable, scared, etc--then you should do it as a treat for him. And you can always just do it once or only on occasion and tell him no whenever you want.
in the intrests of not posting too much about my sex life on the internet, find me tomorrow (or hell, later tonight) and i'll tell you what i think (and actually some things the silly one i'm dating has said to me on the subject)
going home early gwen requested to leave like ten, 11 at latest. so whenever you need to leave by, which is somewehre around there. no, not a big group sleep over again. :-(
ok, Blowjobs are a novility, hence there not meant to get every day. It's kinda like eating a cookie, you don't do it every day, you do it when you feel like it, sometimes you don't eat a cookie for days on end, sometimes you eat 6 in one day. Point is.. I forgot the point. I wouldn't pressure someone into giving a blowjob, if they want to give one, that's great, I'm a big fan of it, but I'm not a big fan of going down myself, as many people have found out, and no it's not the smell, but more along of the Chasing Amy theory on head. Now was that silly? Noooo.
I was saying you wuz silly for egging her on!!!
You point was lost, but your advice is good. Keep it up! You'll be a sensitive man in touch with his feminine side in no time!!!
trust me, you don't want one of those.