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Hair [Jan. 4th, 2011|04:24 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |disappointeddisappointed]

So I went to a new salon (they have been doing my lip and brow waxing) near the new (ok, not that new anymore) apartment. I was nervious, but excited. The appointment had to be re-scheduled like twice. I was getting purple put back in my hair.

I dunno. We had issues with it. It looks... I walked out of the salon hair still somewhat wet, 'cause that's what I do with my hair. Once it dried at home... most of it was either kinda brown looking or faded looking. (The parts that were supposed to be purple.)

I just called the salon back, and talked to the stylist (who I got along with, her manner was professional, her technique was good, my hair feels and looks better than it has in a LONG time... not counting the purple) and I'm going back in tomorrow. We both think that we may need to re-bleach out my hair.

*Sigh*

Just totally anti-climactic and mood-killing. Hopefully it will get fixed tomorrow ('cause I don't want to have to find another new Salon, 'cause Gumby's been going there, and I was happy with how they waxed my eyebrows.)

-Nchanter
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Meme: Places I slept for at least one night, in 2010 [Jan. 1st, 2011|12:37 pm]
Nchanter
Meme: Places I slept for at least one night, in 2010

Cambridge, MA
Littleton, MA
Woburn, MA
Sunderland, MA*
Enfield, CT
Rye Brook, NY
Queensbury, NY
New Kensington, PA
Fairfax, VA
Rusellville, AR

*I'm pretty sure, but not 100%, on that one.
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Respect and Friendship. [Dec. 4th, 2010|03:13 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |contemplativecontemplative]
[song on the wind |Miss You Till I Meet You - Dar Williams]

I was talking with a friend of mine in ATITD earlier today about crushes and Romantic Relationships and the foundations of such. The whole conversation twisted and turned, as such conversations do, and lead to a discussion about respect in friendships. He said something about not necessarily always respecting all of his friends, which lead me to the following...

"Well yes, there are people who I call my friends, that I spend time with and care about that are also dumb-asses. Those are NOT the people who I confide in and bare my soul to and ask advice from and consider my close friends. Who's decisions and motivations in life I consistently agree with and respect. Not to say I always agree with everything they do, but when they do something cringe-worthy I think of it as them doing something dumb-ass, vs BEING a dumb-ass, and it emotionally affects me more. It's that latter type of friendship that I believe needs to be part of a romantic relationship for it to succeed long-term. If you don't respect your partner in that way, how on Earth can you expect anything to last?"

Gumby and I have that. Gumby and I had that before we ever MET, which is part of why we WORK. I'm quite blessed that I've had that in my last few substantial relationships, and I have a number of close friends whom I really respect. The more I think about it the more I realize that Darxus and I never had that, and were never going to develop that. What in my addled 21 year old brain made me think that it was ever going to work?

Saying the above "out loud" has helped me realize why some friendships I have had over the years have worked out, or failed, in the ways that they have. Do I have to agree with everything that my friends do or say? No. But if you don't like or approve of many or most of the decisions your friends make, what is there really to be friends with?

-N
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ZOMG! People can find me on the INTERNETS [Sep. 1st, 2010|08:22 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |awakeawake]

Wait, if I post something on the Internet, it's not secure? But it has a little "lock" picture. That totally meant that no one that I didn't want to see it could see it. It totally protects from people copy-and-pasting, screen-shotting, or letting other people read it over their shoulders!

*rolls eyes*

But seriously folks, while I respect the level of privacy people want to have on their journals, and I hope that people respect me in kind, I know very damn well that what you send out into the Internet, even e-mails, isn't all that secure, and can come back to bite you on the ass.

-N
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Pi-Con [Aug. 23rd, 2010|12:13 am]
Nchanter
It was awesome. Gumby and lbitw met and liked eachother, making my life SO MUCH easier. My hard work and stress about Hotel pre-con paid off. In spades. Dealers... were better than last year. We need someone who actually knows what they are doing with dealers handling it. Also, I cannot have another at-con job other than hotel. The other job suffers. Have stated that clearly to next year's chair. Yay me for learning how to set limits. Rob Sawyer was awesome -- I didn't really interact with Tom Smith or Rob Balder. Hugh was Hugh... meaning Awesome.

Wheeeee... sleep now.

-Nchanter
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My little sister is growing up [Aug. 13th, 2010|02:27 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |happyhappy]

So my little sister (Kim, aged 25, about to start her 3rd year in law school) just called me to apologize. For not understanding.

She's been watching "The Real L-Word" or whatever on Showtime and one of the cast members had come out to her family recently. That woman's family didn't disown her, but was "I don't wanna hear about it, why do we have to talk about this?" in attitude about it. This is how my mom and sister have always been about me being bi and poly (which is less of an issue now that I'm in a heterosexual monogamous relationship...) and has put a huge strain on my relationship with both of them. It's hard to tell them what's going on in my life when they don't want to hear about the people who I'm spending the majority of my non-work time with. So, eventually, you stop really talking or communicating about anything outside of what is necessary.

So listening to this woman on TV say, well, basically what I just said in the previous two sentences, it finally clicked for my sister. She called to apologize for not understanding that it must have been hard for me to try and compartmentalize my life so much just because it made her and mom a little uncomfortable, and that it wasn't fair to me, and she was sorry that she'd added that extra layer of stress in my life. She realizes that it might be too late to fix this, since I'm now making more "normal" relationship choices, but that she would try and be mindful about listening to me talk about things that she might not care about, or even always care to hear about, in the future, 'cause that's what you do when you care about someone.

I thought I was gonna cry. Kim and I may be very different people, but she's my sister, and I love her very much, and the fact that she decided it was worth calling me to tell me this totally made my day. I accepted her apology, am glad that it did finally click for her, and I knew that it was never out of a place of malevolence and that I was glad that she was able to understand.

Then we talked about other things, and it was good.
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(no subject) [Jul. 31st, 2010|11:41 am]
Nchanter
[emotional state |sillysilly]

*Nchanter gnaws on Gumby's forehead
Gumby: What are you doing?
Nchanter: I'm not allowed to eat your Brains?
Gumby: No...
Nchanter: But what if I get the part that's being headachy, then the headache will go away!
*Gumby Laughs
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(no subject) [May. 26th, 2010|10:40 am]
Nchanter
[emotional state |exhaustedexhausted]

Gumby is now here. I now have him all the time. Who wants to take bets on how long it will take him to realize he's made a huge mistake?

-N
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Condom Manufacturing and Country of Origin [May. 17th, 2010|06:29 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |curiouscurious]

So years ago, probably back when I was in High-School or something, I remember being told that because of manufacturing standards and regulations, it was best to buy condoms made in the US and Japan, but condoms from elsewhere were circumspect. This advice seem sound with the number of sketchy products coming out of China these days (Toys with lead paint, drywall that smells like rotten eggs, plastics with extra doses of carcinogens...), but is it something that one should actually look for?

~4 years ago I was dating someone who preferred Durex condoms exclusively (previously I had no sort of brand loyalty, though would default to Trojan when my partner had no sort of input.) and I think I remember the box I picked up at the time saying "Made in the USA." However, the current boxes I have were made in India and Thailand. The random condom assortment pack I have from Good Vibes includes condoms made in China, Thailand, Malaysia, and then, finally Japan.

Is this something other people worry about? Is this something y'all have never thought about? Condoms have been my primary form of birth control for the past 4 years (one of my partners in there was someone who had received a vasectomy), so making sure that I'm not getting sub-par condoms is quite important to me (as I'm sure it is to many other people as well). Is the advice I received 10 years ago out-of-date as the global community and manufacturing & distribution network have changed in that time? What policies do you have for your condom purchasing?

-N
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Oh gods, the fabric [May. 14th, 2010|02:37 pm]
Nchanter
I forgot I had this much fabric. I'm looking at somewhere between 14-18 18 Quart Sterilite containers of fabric and fabric scraps. This doesn't count the tubs of pillow forms I own. Or any of the other crafty supplies (1 container of trim, embellishment, and threads. 1 of paper crafts stuff. 1 of paint and things. 1 of misc supplies...)

Gumby has no idea what he's getting himself into, as I've managed to keep it all in a closet for the past few years. But when it's that organized/compact I'm not using it, and damn it, I wanna be using it again.

And man, some of this fabric is *ugly* I mean, I know buying lots of fabric out of the 1/2 off bins at the now defunct Fabric Place over the years was an economical way of obtaining this much fabric, but I wouldn't be surprised if a whole 1/3 of my current stash is stuff I will not use in the next 10 years. At some point I will hopefully get good enough in my actual quilting that I will stop needing practice sandwiches made of poly-batting and ugly-fabric.. and then what do I do?

Oh crap. I haven't even thought of the rolls of batting in the corner of the living room.

This moving thing? It is a nightmare. No wonder I've been all anxious over packing for the past few weeks...

-N
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Pi-Con! [May. 6th, 2010|09:22 pm]
Nchanter
[emotional state |busybusy]

So as most of you know, I'm Heavily involved with Pi-Con. Our hotel block in now open for reservations, and this plus dealer stuff has taken up most of my day (pushing packing to the back-burner).

Here is the spiel that got posted around LiveJournal a whole bunch today

Pi-Con is a small, lively, diverse Science Fiction and Fantasy convention taking place August 20th-22nd, 2010, in Enfield, CT, USA. We have lots of panels on a wide range of fannish topics, events including live music concerts, filking, gaming of all sorts (LARPs, table-top, board games, and video games), vendors, and much much more. Just think of us as your summertime Mini-Arisia :)

This year we have Author Robert J. Sawyer as our Guest of Honor, Webcomics Guest of Honor Rob Balder, and Guest of Awesome Hugh Casey.

Hotel Reservations for the Pi-Con Room Block are now open! However, due to technical issues at the hotel, our room block and the Pi-Con discount rate is not available for on-line booking.

Rooms come equipped with a microwave and mini-fridge and are $99 a night this year (that's down from last year, and below their current advanced-purchase super-saver rate).

Please call 860-741-2211 to make your room reservation today and make sure to tell them you are with Pi-Con!

Feel free to ask questions, and all special requests, inquiries, and if you are planning on hosting a party (public or private) should be sent to hotel@pi-con.org

More information about pi-con, including membership registration, how to sign up to be a vendor, and flyers for download can be found at our website www.pi-con.org

-Kris "Nchanter" Snyder
Hotel Liaison, 5Pi-Con
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ZOMG MOVING! [May. 4th, 2010|02:48 pm]
Nchanter
So... I'm moving! We are going to be living on the second floor of very quirky but spacious 140 year old farmhouse in Littleton, MA. It has a laundry room with lavender walls, and the living room has 8" pine board flooring. It also has a new roof, newly insulated walls, and brand new electrical wiring. :)

I just scheduled Nick's Moving Co. (Their website is lame but they definitely get the job done) for Wednesday, May 19th. I'm only a little bit packed so far.

My Mother has insisted on buying us a new couch and chair. Which means I have to come up with something to do with my current ones. They are in fantastic shape structurally and comfort wise... but they have off-white upholstery covering that is old and dingy. I got them for free when a friend's parents downsized, and they have served me well over the past 7 or so years, and was planning on just slipcovering them when we moved. As I got them for free, I'm more than happy to pass them on to anyone on my friends list, or greater friends-list community, as long as you haul them out of here before Memorial Day Weekend. If I get no takers I'll throw up a $50 ad on Craigslist or something. The couch is ~6' long, the chair is big and cumfy, comes with an ottoman, and two matching floor pillows.

I might end up having more stuff to unload once I start actually packing....

Meep!

-N
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A request from Gumby [Mar. 22nd, 2010|04:37 pm]
Nchanter
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So Gumby is looking to move up here (yay!) and possibly go back to school for a degree in CS. He currently has a degree in Mechanical Engineering from Arkansas University and graduated ~12 years ago. He's been working in manufacturing and totally wants out, and we've been figuring that getting a Masters might be better than going back for a second Bachelors. And I'll just quote him here....

15:41 <gumby> can you do me a favor?
15:42 <gumby> you know several people from the computer science arena, do you think they could offer any suggestions on places to look for a masters in computer science
15:43 <gumby> reputable/affordable places
16:02 <gumby> i'd like to check out 4-5 places as far as suggested classes to take in preparation for grad school
16:03 <gumby> and hopefully put together those classes in a span of a year or so that would allow me to apply to multiple grad schools
16:04 <gumby> i'd feel better about moving after selling my house with no job, and hopefully have the core reqs would allow for a decent job while getting a masters
16:05 <gumby> enough to get my foot in the door somewhere

So suggestions? He's already looked at U Mass. (Though further comments on the U Mass system is totally useful)

Edit: I don't think I was clear in that his current degree is a BS, not a masters. And the classes he would be taking pre-applying would possibly be undergraduate level classes that he would need to be able to go to a masters program in CS.
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(no subject) [Mar. 17th, 2010|02:08 pm]
Nchanter
So in my flurry of apathy I'm way overdue for a lip-and-brow wax. I'm heading to Lunacon Thursday evening and I'd really like to get it done before then. My normal woman is booked tomorrow and has already left for the day today (at 2pm? wtf?) Can anyone recommend someone/place in the Camberville area instead? The idea of cold-walking into somewhere for a wax is... meh.

Suggestion was made in IRC and appointment has been booked for tomorrow morning :)

-N
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Travel! [Feb. 3rd, 2010|12:24 am]
Nchanter
[emotional state |bouncybouncy]

Going to visit Gumby... leaving tomorrow (Wednesday) around 1pm and will be back Monday Night. Will be online Thursday during the day and.... probably spots throughout the weekend 'cause I'm an addict.

-N
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ATITD Squee [Jan. 26th, 2010|11:57 pm]
Nchanter
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[emotional state |accomplishedaccomplished]

I'm way way too excited about this... but my avatar now has a snake tattoo! (It's part of the "reward" for doing a quest)



-Nchanter
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Not to belittle any other relationship I've been in... [Jan. 22nd, 2010|04:17 pm]
Nchanter
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[emotional state |enthralledenthralled]

I've been getting the feeling the past few days that any relationship I've been in, up until now, have all been for the purpose of preparing me for this one, so I would recognize how much it rocks.

-N
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Arisia. [Jan. 18th, 2010|09:02 pm]
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[emotional state |accomplishedaccomplished]

Overall Experience ++

I do not feel peopled out. This is a good thing. This might be 'cause I did less partying-socializing than in previous years.

I ran registration with the help of many others, but a special shout-out needs to go to penk for writing the best software ever, and cindy_lu for being a patient and understanding second. I didn't ever turn on the full-out "In-charge Bitch" mode, so yay! I just apparently looked worn-out a lot of the time. I have made mental notes on how to be less stressed next year, and other things to do differently, some of which will depend on physical space-setup next year. But we got lots of compliments and the Major Problems(tm) were all things that weren't our fault. (Power was cut and Credit Card Processor's Service went down.)

I also did some gaming... and eldrad ended up buying Agricula. Which is good. We've played it once already since we got home :)

paradoox gave me a "2010 Hero" ribbon which came with a mug that has an arisia shield on it :)

There were a few people that I got to spend some real quality time with that I feel blessed that they spent their free time with me, and others I wish I had seen more of/any of.

Even though I was ragged for a bunch of, but not all, the time it was a really good year... though I'm looking forward to the new hotel for 2011.

Now to tackle Pi-Con work, and I need to find a paying job.

-Nchanter
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Gratuitous Icon Post [Dec. 11th, 2009|08:20 pm]
Nchanter
[Tags|]
[emotional state |busybusy]

This is my avatar in ATITD. I got the lead artist to give avatars that color option on their clothes. It's called "Indigo" 'cause he would get in trouble calling it "Nchanter Purple" ;)

Expect it to be used when I'm feeling (more) geeky (than normal).

-N
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Paradigm Shift [Nov. 4th, 2009|11:29 am]
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For some reason I feel like this is the sort of thing I need to announce...

lbitw and I broke up yesterday, amicably, and I'm very confident that we will be able to remain friends. We both want to. He is an absolutely amazing guy, Jen is very lucky to have him, and I feel so blessed for the past year that I've had with him.

I'm kinda... crushed, even though this was an inevitability at this point, 'cause of the way mine and Gumby's relationship had been heading. Which is, to say, monogamous. I'm now in a monogamous relationship, for the first time in my adult life. People have questioned whether or not I'll be able to "do monogamy."

It doesn't go against my personal philosophys to be in a closed relationship, and maybe at somepoint I'll write all of my thoughts on relationhips and stuff out, but the short version is that communication and honesty are important, and finiding an arrangement that is comforatable for all people (be it two or more) involved in that relationship, is the most important part. This doesn't mean that I no longer love anyone other than Gumby, just that I have made a decision to not act romantically or sexually towards anyone but him.

Life is about choices, and the only constant is change.

-N
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(no subject) [Sep. 6th, 2009|10:43 am]
Nchanter
I had every intention of going to the EoS party and brining lbitw with me. And about an hour before we were planning on showing up, as we were eating our Gyros (Ok, mine was a Lamb Suvlaki Sandwich, but you can't tell the difference from the outsdie) from the Greek Corner and were watching another episode of The West Wing ('cause this is what we do) I hit a wall of "OMG - Drained" and... never recovered enough to deal with the wall of people that would have been inevitable.

I'll make it back out to large or even moderately sized social occasions again some day, I swear. Other than a con. Cons I can handle 'cause I'm in work-mode.

-N







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A review of Pi-Con [Sep. 3rd, 2009|01:23 pm]
Nchanter
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[emotional state |accomplishedaccomplished]

Oliver Surpless of www.original-gamer.com wrote up really awesome review of Pi-Con. Y'all should check it out.

-Nchanter
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Pi-Con [Aug. 24th, 2009|09:31 am]
Nchanter
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[emotional state |accomplishedaccomplished]

It Was Awesome. We had a *very* good con. I will have something resembling a more full report later. I ended up staying at the hotel again last night, 'casue I wasn't sure if I was going to be awake enough to drive once the 2nd 15th wind wore off. I'm thinking I could probably have managed it, and it would have been much safer than the drive home I did last year, but it was nice not to have to. I also slept 9 hours last night :) I'm very happy about that.

So yea, packing up my stuff, cleaning up the room some, leaving housekeeping a good tip, checking out, driving home, and then just vegging the entire day 'cause my body is sore and my brain is a little bit fuzzy.

:)

-Kris
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Help! [Aug. 20th, 2009|08:16 am]
Nchanter
OK.

I have a corel draw (.cdr) file when I was supposed to have a .PDF If there is anyone on my friends list that can open .cdr's and convert them to .pdf's... or print out the .cdr and scan it to a more universal format... and get it to me asap... I would love you forever and ever. Please let me know. Very Important. If you're on my friendlist you can find my phone number in my memories section under contact. This is *mega* Important.

Thanks.

-me

UPDATE: I think I have someone to convert for me... I'll post a further update if that becomes not-true.
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*nom nom* [Aug. 16th, 2009|11:43 pm]
Nchanter
[Tags|]
[emotional state |busybusy]

In case anyone was curious, my brain, sanity, and life has been eaten by Pi-Con lately. However, Pi-Con is shaping up to be more than awesome, and I'm really confident about how well we're going to do this year. People should come! Even if it's just for Saturday.

-N
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